Sahih Muslim 1812 b
The Book of Jihad and Expeditions
Women who take part in military expeditions are to be given a reward but not a regular share; And the prohibition of killing children of the enemy
This tradition has been narrated by the game authority (Yazid b. Hurmus) through a different chain of transmitters with the following difference in the elucidation of one of the points raised by Najda in his letter to Ibn Abas: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) used not to kill the children, so you shouldst not kill them unless you could know what Khadir had known about the child he killed, or you could distinguish between a child who would grow up to he a believer (and a child who would grow up to be a non-believer), so that you killed the (prospective) non-believer and left the (prospective) believer aside.